This post isn’t for the singles who are struggling with loneliness and are looking for something to ease it, neither is it for those in relationships trying to enjoy it better. This post is for all of us; each and every one of us because we all need to live loved while realising that it won’t come through people.
There are enough people, single or otherwise who have a hard time feeling like they’re loved. We try to get people to love us and when we can’t get that, we find substitutes. Our pets, music, favourite brand of ice cream, movies, books, alcohol, weed, sex or whatever your drug is, would never really give us what we need. However, we grow accustomed to finding temporary highs and chasing whatever will fill the void.
When the high is over or your text is not replied, we start sinking into a hole. We’ll always find a way to bear the blame mostly thinking that our flaws led to that.
We make mistakes; big or small, messy or not. Then beat ourselves up. We’re never good enough.
This is to each of us who needs to be reminded that love has little to do with you and more to do with the giver of love. To us who need introduction or a reminder of a love that’s redeeming; a love that’s unconditional. A love that already accepted us and isn’t repelled by our ugliness. A love that loves through our mess and through each failure. A love that’s constant and ever reliable. A love that wraps around us and says you are mine.
You are loved and nothing can change that fact. Your strengths and weaknesses are covered by that love. Love cheers you on daily. Love wipes your tears and lights up the darkness around you. Love loves you.
You are loved and accepted; no man gave that to you and no man can take that away.
1 John 4:10 This is love, not that we loved God but that He loved us…
Lamentations 3:22 The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases…
Romans 5:8 But God demonstrates His own love in this, while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.
Diary of A Loved Black Woman 