There’s a certain song by Silas Miami that has been on constant replay the last 2-3 days. It’s where the title of this post was borrowed but the experience is solely my own (Lol).
Interestingly enough, as I started to write this, I just got a notification from Tinder that I have a new match. Poor guy will now become my muse for this post. Let’s begin with a meme:
So hey,
If we’re talking this much and I sent you the link to this post, then you probably figured out that I like you and there’s a good chance you feel the same. But there are a few things you need to know about me.
Before I delve into the complexities defining how hard I am to love, I must point out a thing or too:
I am worth it. I will captivate you. I will inspire you and challenge you. I’ll be all the spontaneity you need. I’ll be an anchor. I’ll be fun and I’ll be chilled. I will come up with crazy ideas and life changing ones. We’ll have amazing conversations. I’ll be kindness, I’ll be love, I’ll be understanding, I’ll be care and concern. My mind will baffle you. My personality is one of a kind.
However, I’m nothing near easy. I’m a force to reckon with. I’m a warrior but I have days when I lose battles as simple as getting out of bed. I’m a ball of energy and cheer but there’ll be enough moments when depression will have me pinned down completely. I’m fun and spontaneous but more often than not, IBS will have me stuck in bed.
I’m an empath and have a big heart. That doesn’t fully suppress the me that’s less inclined to bullshit. I’m an intellectual but there are choices I’ll make that will confuse you. Don’t worry, I overanalyse everything and even when it doesn’t make sense, be sure it was a very informed choice.
Initially, I will dive right in with you. I thoroughly enjoy new experiences and people. But when you get fully captivated, chances are, I’ll notice. Then I’ll freak out and start running away. Self sabotage comes all too easily for me.
Here’s the thing, I love loving people and showering them with affection and attention. But I’m very awkward when that’s reciprocated. Goodness, I’m quite bad at receiving love, attention or affection: genuine and consistent.
So yes I’ll run and retreat. You’ll be confused. I’ll frustrate your efforts. The easiest thing to do would be to give up and move on.
But like they say, nothing good comes easy. If you see past my masks you’ll realise that I didn’t ghost because I didn’t like you. If you challenge the walls I’ll quickly put up, you’ll notice how breakable they are. You will see the fear in my eyes.
Yes I’m hard to love (oh my close friends will gladly tell you). But even with all the highs and lows, the journey will be worth every twist and turn.